How to Start Homeschooling: A Step-by-Step Guide for New Parents

So you're thinking about homeschooling. Maybe you've already decided, maybe you're still on the fence — but either way, your brain is probably buzzing with questions. Is this even legal? Am I qualified? What about socialization? Where do I get curriculum? What if I mess it up?

Take a breath. I've been exactly where you are, and I promise it's far more doable than it looks from the outside. This guide walks you through how to start homeschooling one clear step at a time — the same steps thousands of families take every year — so you can begin with confidence instead of overwhelm.

Step 1: Understand your state's homeschool laws

Homeschooling is legal in all 50 states, but each state writes its own rules — so this is always step one. The requirements generally cover a few things: whether you need to notify anyone that you're homeschooling, what records you keep, which subjects you teach, and whether any assessment is required.

States tend to fall along a spectrum from very relaxed (no notice required) to more structured (notice of intent, attendance records, a portfolio, or periodic testing). To get accurate, up-to-date details, search for your specific state's homeschool requirements and read both your state department of education page and a reputable homeschool advocacy organization. Laws change, so always confirm the current version rather than relying on a friend's memory.

Step 2: Officially withdraw your child (if they're enrolled)

If your child is currently in a public or private school, you'll usually need to formally withdraw them so they aren't marked truant. Depending on your state, this can be as simple as submitting a letter of intent to homeschool or a withdrawal letter to the school. Follow your state's process exactly, and keep a dated copy of anything you send for your records.

If your child has never been enrolled (for example, you're starting at kindergarten age), you typically just begin homeschooling and file whatever notice your state requires at the appropriate age.

Step 3: Deschool before you "do school"

Here's the step new parents most often skip — and most often regret skipping. If your child is coming out of a classroom, give everyone a season to deschool: a gentle decompression where you set aside formal lessons and simply live and learn together. Read piles of books, bake, build, visit the library, get outside, follow rabbit trails of curiosity.

Why? Because children (and parents!) often need to unwind from the rhythms and pressures of traditional school before homeschooling can flourish. A widely shared guideline is about one month of deschooling for each year your child spent in conventional school. It feels counterintuitive, but it pays off in a child who actually wants to learn again.

Step 4: Discover your homeschool style

One reason new homeschoolers feel overwhelmed is that they picture homeschooling as "school at home" — desks, bells, and worksheets from 8 to 3. In reality there are many beautiful approaches, and finding the one that fits your family makes everything easier. A few of the most popular:

• Traditional / textbook: Structured, grade-level books and lesson plans. Familiar and reassuring for many beginners.
• Charlotte Mason: Short lessons, "living books" instead of dry textbooks, nature study, narration, and lots of good literature.
• Classical: Follows the stages of a child's development (grammar, logic, rhetoric) with an emphasis on great books and clear thinking.
• Unit studies: The whole family studies one theme (say, oceans or ancient Egypt) across many subjects at once.
• Eclectic: The most common in real life — you mix and match what works for each child. It's completely okay to be eclectic.

You don't have to commit forever. Pick the style that sounds like your family for now, and let it evolve.

Step 5: Choose your first curriculum

Now the fun (and slightly dizzying) part. There are wonderful curricula for every style and budget — which is exactly why it's easy to get stuck. So here's my honest advice: your first curriculum does not have to be your forever curriculum. Choose something open-and-go that doesn't demand hours of prep, and give yourself full freedom to switch later.

If you only get one thing right in the early years, make it reading. A strong, phonics-based reading program builds the foundation everything else stands on. The reading and spelling program our family uses is on my homeschool resources page, along with the all-in-one and faith-based options I recommend most to beginners.

How much should curriculum cost?

Anywhere from nearly free to several hundred dollars per child, per year. You can absolutely homeschool well on a tight budget using the library, free printables, and low-cost programs. Don't let price tags convince you that you need the most expensive box on the shelf — you don't.

Step 6: Set up a simple routine and learning space

Forget the Pinterest-perfect schoolroom. A corner of the kitchen table, a basket of supplies, and a shelf of books is more than enough to start. What matters far more than the space is a predictable rhythm to your day.

Most young children only need one to three hours of focused learning a day; the rest is play, chores, reading aloud, and real life — all of which teach. A gentle starter rhythm might look like this:

• Breakfast and a quick tidy-up
• "Morning time" together — a read-aloud, a song, a verse or poem, the calendar
• The basics — reading, writing, and math (short and sweet)
• Lunch and a quiet rest or independent reading
• Afternoon for projects, outings, nature, or play

Notice it's a flow, not a minute-by-minute timetable. Rhythms bend on hard days without breaking — which is exactly what you want.

Step 7: Protect against burnout from day one

The most important resource in your homeschool is you. New homeschool moms often pour out so much that they run dry by October. Build in protection now: keep lessons short, take breaks, say no to too many activities, and don't compare your real life to someone else's highlight reel online.

And please — find your people. Homeschooling is so much lighter when you're not doing it alone. I wrote a whole guide on this: How Homeschool Moms Find Support: Co-ops, Community & Encouragement.

You don't have to be a perfect teacher. You just have to be a present, loving parent who keeps showing up. That's the secret the glossy curriculum catalogs won't tell you.

Frequently asked questions

Do I need to be a certified teacher to homeschool?

In the vast majority of states, no. You do not need a teaching degree or certification to homeschool your own children. You need commitment and a willingness to learn alongside them.

What about socialization?

This is the question every homeschooler hears, and the good news is that socialization is very manageable. Co-ops, sports, church groups, library programs, clubs, park days, and community classes all give kids rich social lives — often with a wider age range than a single classroom.

How many hours a day is homeschooling?

Far fewer than a school day. Because you're teaching one child or a small group rather than thirty, learning is efficient. Many families finish the core academics in two to four hours, leaving time for play, projects, and rest.

What if I start and it isn't working?

Then you adjust — the curriculum, the schedule, or the approach. Flexibility is the whole point of homeschooling. "It isn't working" almost always means "this particular method isn't working," not "we can't homeschool."

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You've got this

Starting to homeschool is a leap, but it's a leap millions of ordinary, wonderful parents take and never regret. Handle the legal basics, give your family room to breathe, choose a gentle curriculum, build a kind rhythm, and find your community. Everything else you'll learn as you go — which is exactly how your kids learn too.

If you'd like the whole process on one printable page, grab my free starter checklist below. And whenever you're ready for the next step, my Start Here page ties it all together.